the other day i came to some important realizations...as a new mom and parent i found myself lacking confidence and feeling insecure about choices or decisions at times. however 2 years later, i realize i am far more confident in this role and never doubt my gut instinct. as we grow and evolve as people the same is true for the ones around us. sometimes people grow with us and sometimes they grow apart. when we first moved to washington i was desperate for new friendships for myself and our family. but as we have created our own home here and grown as a family i realize that not all of these friendships/relationships are a good fit for one reason or another. so it became real clear to me today that...
~i can let go of some of the friendships that no longer work for me at this time or create new expectations for them
~i need to expand my mom tribe with some new blood that more closely ties into my thoughts or beliefs
~i've matured into this mom role nicely when i can cut past the BS and put my family first without feeling bad
~as moms and parents i am not going to judge, we are all doing our best, but we are all on different paths and "parent" differently. sometimes our styles just don't mesh well.
~i can speak up and be assertive without being a bitch
~sometimes the motto "good for you, but not for me" is very fitting
not only other great moms, but an awesome and supportive husband as well!
We've talked about this and I think you are seeing this right on. My experience with mommy friends is that they change and evolve due to many factors. Many times its due to schools...preschool, elementary school, etc. Finding new ones takes time and effort but you're creative, motivated and now experienced! Sometimes just finding just one new mom that you connect with opens new doors to all sorts of new people. Will be waiting to see what happens. xox
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